Maybe you were last in that 5K race last week, or maybe you didn't land that job you tried with so much effort to score. We may be unhappy with the outcome of these situations, but we can always learn something from them.
Remind yourself that you are never losing, you are learning.
Everything that happens in our lives is an experience, a learning experience.
We can find and take the positive from a bad situation and grow or let it remain bad and get absolutely nothing out of it besides negative emotions.
..It's all up to you..